5 Wedding Etiquette Tips

Kathy Russell - Wedding Planner OntarioYour wedding is considered one of life’s most important and exciting occasions. It can also be a stressful time and sometimes basic etiquette gets thrown out the window. Although the rules are becoming somewhat more relaxed over time, there are still some basic etiquette ‘rules’ to take into consideration.  Here are 5 wedding etiquette tips to help you.

1. Invitations – Essentials

  • Sets the tone for your wedding
  • Special envelopes and professional invitations should be used
  • Hand write the envelopes with exactly who you are inviting
  • Include hotel info on a separate enclosure card
  • Gift registry info does not go on or in the invitation

2. Receiving line – Should we have one?

  • It’s good to have one if there are more than 75 guests
  • Some tend to think it is outdated, however, having a receiving line is still important and gives you the opportunity to properly greet your guests and thank them
  • Receiving line can be right after the ceremony, during cocktail hour or before dinner
  • Receiving line should include – bride, groom and both sets of parents

3. Gifts – Expectations

  • Asking for cash is tacky. All gifts should be graciously acknowledged
  • Have a gift registry (some people still like to give a traditional gift)
  • In some cases, this is determined by culture. Different cultures have different expectations
  • Leave it to friends and family to let people know about gifts and gift registry

4. Reception/Toasts

  • The most important part of the reception is to make sure your guests are well looked after
  • First toast can be handled by the bride’s father – toasts the bride and groom
  • Second toast by the Groom – thanks both families and the wedding party
  • Last toast – Best-man can say a few words about the groom and a compliment to the bride
  • Cake cutting later in the evening – this signifies guests are welcome to leave if they wish

Tip: Ensure your DJ knows what you want played and who he needs to call for special dances

5. Saying Thank you – Most important!

  • Never under estimate the importance of a thank you note
  • Take time to hand write something thoughtful and send it by mail
  • Send it in a timely manner, no later than 3 months after the wedding
  • If budget allows, a wedding photo is always nice in the card

When it comes to etiquette, using common sense is often your best friend both for wedding planning and on your wedding day. The goal would be to strive not to do anything that has any potential to offend, embarrass, hurt the feelings of a guest, wedding party, or a family member. Conduct yourself with kindness, grace and consideration, when circumstances may arise. Be respectful and appreciative to everyone involved.  Still have questions about etiquette?  I’d love the opportunity to discuss them with you!

Don’t get confused with wedding etiquette and wedding traditions. They are two different facets of weddings. You might consider discussing various traditions and etiquette with different generations of your family. There may be some special ones that you will want to honour and pass on to generations to come.

Enjoy your special day with your family, friends and guests! Congratulations!

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Until next time,


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